Are you struggling with self-doubt, low confidence, or a lack of self-worth?
This powerful 51-minute motivational episode is designed to help you celebrate yourself, rebuild inner strength, and reclaim your confidence—starting today. In this video, you’ll learn practical tools to develop true self-love, build unshakable confidence, and overcome fear, negativity, and self-doubt. Through mindset coaching, emotional wellness strategies, and personal development techniques, you’ll begin shifting the inner dialogue that’s been holding you back. If you’re on a journey of self-improvement, personal growth, and emotional wellness, this episode will help you reconnect with your value, strengthen your mindset, and believe in yourself again.
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00:00:00 --> 00:00:03 Welcome to Where Science Meets Self -Care with
00:00:03 --> 00:00:06 Ida Fanelli. With over 30 years in beauty and
00:00:06 --> 00:00:09 wellness and a background in medical science,
00:00:09 --> 00:00:12 Ida blends clinical knowledge with holistic care.
00:00:13 --> 00:00:16 Each week, she and her guests share insights
00:00:16 --> 00:00:19 to help you achieve healthier skin, balanced
00:00:19 --> 00:00:23 energy, and empowered self -care. Now, here's
00:00:23 --> 00:00:32 your host, Ida Finelli. Today, I'm excited to
00:00:32 --> 00:00:38 present Amy Ballantyne. She is a fellow award
00:00:38 --> 00:00:41 recipient from the International Order of Fantastic
00:00:41 --> 00:00:44 Professionals. Amy Ballantyne is a two -time
00:00:44 --> 00:00:48 TEDx speaker, a best -selling author of Celebrate
00:00:48 --> 00:00:51 Yourself, a certified executive and wellness
00:00:51 --> 00:00:54 coach, and host of Power to the People Pleasers
00:00:54 --> 00:00:58 podcast. Amy lives in Waterloo, Ontario, Canada
00:00:58 --> 00:01:01 with her husband and three athletic children.
00:01:02 --> 00:01:04 She's often found cheering at a hockey rink,
00:01:05 --> 00:01:08 ballpark or dance competition and enjoys reading,
00:01:08 --> 00:01:12 meditation and nature. Let's dive into the heart
00:01:12 --> 00:01:14 of what it means to truly celebrate yourself
00:01:14 --> 00:01:17 and break through emotional and mental blocks.
00:01:18 --> 00:01:21 Amy, welcome and congratulations on receiving
00:01:21 --> 00:01:26 the 2025 Transformational Leadership. in Coaching
00:01:26 --> 00:01:29 and Wellness Award. What does that milestone
00:01:29 --> 00:01:32 mean to you? Thanks so much for having me here
00:01:32 --> 00:01:34 today, Ida. I'm so excited to be on your show.
00:01:35 --> 00:01:40 Well, anytime someone gives you recognition,
00:01:40 --> 00:01:46 it feels really nice, right? And to receive recognition
00:01:46 --> 00:01:50 of this award, to notice the coaching that I'm
00:01:50 --> 00:01:56 doing especially feels... really wonderful. And
00:01:56 --> 00:02:01 I, I'm grateful to be a part of, to be recognized
00:02:01 --> 00:02:08 by this wonderful group of people. And this This
00:02:08 --> 00:02:12 is certainly wonderful to have on the shelf,
00:02:12 --> 00:02:15 to have this recognition. What makes my heart
00:02:15 --> 00:02:17 the most happy is when I'm with a coaching client,
00:02:18 --> 00:02:19 when I'm with each of my coaching clients and
00:02:19 --> 00:02:21 they find value in each of the sessions. That's
00:02:21 --> 00:02:26 what really lights my soul on fire. So very,
00:02:26 --> 00:02:28 very grateful to have the recognition from an
00:02:28 --> 00:02:31 outside group. And support, too, from people.
00:02:31 --> 00:02:34 Yeah. That can give you advice, which is what
00:02:34 --> 00:02:38 I like about it. Yes. They give you, you meet
00:02:38 --> 00:02:40 people that you wouldn't know. Otherwise, I wouldn't
00:02:40 --> 00:02:42 know you, right? Yeah, that's right. That's right.
00:02:43 --> 00:02:46 Amy, it seems to me you were meant to be on the
00:02:46 --> 00:02:48 stage speaking. From high school cheerleader
00:02:48 --> 00:02:51 to mother, wellness coach, and now TEDx speaker,
00:02:51 --> 00:02:54 you've always known the power of using your voice
00:02:54 --> 00:02:57 to lift others up. How have these roles shaped
00:02:57 --> 00:02:59 the mission you're on today to help others reclaim
00:02:59 --> 00:03:02 their worth and step into unshakable confidence?
00:03:06 --> 00:03:09 In each interaction, whether it's speaking from
00:03:09 --> 00:03:12 a stage or whether it's coaching one -to -one
00:03:12 --> 00:03:16 or in small groups, the desire for me is to help
00:03:16 --> 00:03:21 individuals to realize that they are enough and
00:03:21 --> 00:03:26 they have all of what they need already inside
00:03:26 --> 00:03:31 of them to live that next life. And the opportunity
00:03:31 --> 00:03:34 to uncover new awareness about themselves is
00:03:34 --> 00:03:39 always available. So my goal in speaking, in
00:03:39 --> 00:03:45 standing on the stage especially, is to, first
00:03:45 --> 00:03:47 of all, share stories where people can resonate
00:03:47 --> 00:03:53 with my heart, with my... my compassion, all
00:03:53 --> 00:03:57 of the wisdom and information that I'm able to
00:03:57 --> 00:04:03 channel in and bring forward that sometimes I'm
00:04:03 --> 00:04:06 not even aware of myself until it spits out of
00:04:06 --> 00:04:12 my mouth. And to leave them with actionable strategies
00:04:12 --> 00:04:15 that they can take away and begin implementing
00:04:15 --> 00:04:23 in their life to see new new levels of energy,
00:04:24 --> 00:04:28 to reduce their stress, to take new actions or
00:04:28 --> 00:04:32 remember and revisit actions that used to work
00:04:32 --> 00:04:35 for them that for whatever reason got lost along
00:04:35 --> 00:04:40 the way. And so the goal is to help lift people
00:04:40 --> 00:04:44 up from where they are and help them step into
00:04:44 --> 00:04:47 that next version of themselves. Was there a
00:04:47 --> 00:04:49 moment when you realized cheering for others
00:04:49 --> 00:04:52 had to begin with learning to cheer for yourself?
00:04:53 --> 00:04:57 Absolutely. I've had a few times in my life where,
00:04:57 --> 00:05:01 and for me, certainly there is this cheering
00:05:01 --> 00:05:04 component, especially with my new book, Celebrate
00:05:04 --> 00:05:09 Yourself and Being a Cheerleader. But I uncovered...
00:05:10 --> 00:05:14 earlier in my business, that in order to lead
00:05:14 --> 00:05:16 others, I needed to lead myself first, which
00:05:16 --> 00:05:19 is very similar to celebrate myself celebrating
00:05:19 --> 00:05:23 others, right, or cheering for others. And when
00:05:23 --> 00:05:29 we step into this, leading ourselves first, recognizing
00:05:29 --> 00:05:34 that we are the one responsible for our how we're
00:05:34 --> 00:05:36 showing up in the world, we're responsible for
00:05:36 --> 00:05:38 the decisions and the choices that we're making.
00:05:40 --> 00:05:44 We are the ones that can either decide to jump
00:05:44 --> 00:05:48 out of bed and go move our body and choose healthier
00:05:48 --> 00:05:53 things. We are the ones living this life in this
00:05:53 --> 00:06:01 body right now. This was a pretty big shift for
00:06:01 --> 00:06:04 me, honestly, when I realized that it was up
00:06:04 --> 00:06:07 to me. If I wanted to see the success... I had
00:06:07 --> 00:06:09 to keep on going. I had to keep on trying. I
00:06:09 --> 00:06:11 had to keep getting up every day and keep doing
00:06:11 --> 00:06:14 the actions. And for me, one of the biggest things
00:06:14 --> 00:06:19 was realizing that I was looking for the celebration.
00:06:19 --> 00:06:22 I was looking for the cheering outside of myself.
00:06:22 --> 00:06:24 And I think that we're conditioned. It's what
00:06:24 --> 00:06:26 I write about in the book. I think we're conditioned
00:06:26 --> 00:06:28 to look for that celebration outside of ourselves.
00:06:28 --> 00:06:32 That's why it's, you know, back to your earlier
00:06:32 --> 00:06:36 question. Really, it feels wonderful to be recognized
00:06:36 --> 00:06:38 by other people, but I actually think the greatest
00:06:38 --> 00:06:43 gift that we can give ourselves is taking that
00:06:43 --> 00:06:45 moment of recognition and internalizing what
00:06:45 --> 00:06:48 does that mean for you as a human now? What does
00:06:48 --> 00:06:53 that celebration mean? And for me, I am celebrating
00:06:53 --> 00:06:57 that I am doing good work, I am helping people,
00:06:57 --> 00:07:02 and I feel I feel fulfilled by that. I feel excited
00:07:02 --> 00:07:05 by it every day. I feel excited to meet with
00:07:05 --> 00:07:09 people, to talk about these ideas. That's what
00:07:09 --> 00:07:17 brings me the celebration and the joy. And I'm
00:07:17 --> 00:07:21 on a mission to help people rewire and rethink
00:07:21 --> 00:07:25 that. there's a tremendous amount of power and
00:07:25 --> 00:07:28 momentum that comes when we actually cheer for
00:07:28 --> 00:07:32 ourselves. When we can honestly say, I'm really
00:07:32 --> 00:07:33 proud of myself for doing this thing and it's
00:07:33 --> 00:07:36 not about you and it's not about any of the other
00:07:36 --> 00:07:40 people around us. It's owning that and feeling
00:07:40 --> 00:07:44 the goodness within ourselves. That's what I'm
00:07:44 --> 00:07:47 most excited to share when it comes to cheering
00:07:47 --> 00:07:52 for myself first allows me to feel That worthiness
00:07:52 --> 00:07:55 allows me to feel that wholeness, to feel complete
00:07:55 --> 00:07:59 so that I can make the space to cheer for others
00:07:59 --> 00:08:04 in an even bigger way. Definitely. Part of your
00:08:04 --> 00:08:07 mission clearly involves literally using your
00:08:07 --> 00:08:10 voice. You've taken the TEDx stage multiple times
00:08:10 --> 00:08:13 with such grounded, authentic presence. Did that
00:08:13 --> 00:08:16 kind of confidence come naturally to you or was
00:08:16 --> 00:08:18 it something you had to cultivate over time?
00:08:19 --> 00:08:22 I actually grew up as a ballet dancer, and I
00:08:22 --> 00:08:25 think that that was part of the cultivation of
00:08:25 --> 00:08:29 the confidence over time. The practice of being
00:08:29 --> 00:08:32 in front of people, whether it was just my classmates
00:08:32 --> 00:08:36 and my dance teacher, and then more students,
00:08:36 --> 00:08:41 bigger stages when we did our performances. and
00:08:41 --> 00:08:43 branching from there but I would say when I was
00:08:43 --> 00:08:46 younger I was quite shy but where I was able
00:08:46 --> 00:08:50 to show and express myself more was on the stage
00:08:50 --> 00:08:54 and so I have definitely felt more comfortable
00:08:54 --> 00:08:59 up there than maybe some others but confidence
00:08:59 --> 00:09:01 has come and gone throughout my life I actually
00:09:01 --> 00:09:06 went through a period of time where I lost all
00:09:06 --> 00:09:09 confidence in my speaking abilities because of
00:09:09 --> 00:09:14 some pretty significant memory loss. And I actually
00:09:14 --> 00:09:17 thought for a time, and this was a few years
00:09:17 --> 00:09:20 before I did my first TEDx, I thought for a time
00:09:20 --> 00:09:21 that I would never speak again. I would never
00:09:21 --> 00:09:24 get on stage in front of people ever again because
00:09:24 --> 00:09:28 I could not remember. I had a moment where I
00:09:28 --> 00:09:31 couldn't even remember one of my best friend's
00:09:31 --> 00:09:33 names from university. Did you have an accident?
00:09:33 --> 00:09:36 No, it was related to perimenopause, as it turns
00:09:36 --> 00:09:42 out. Oh, wow. Yeah. And so I was very, I was
00:09:42 --> 00:09:46 devastated, honestly. I thought one of the parts
00:09:46 --> 00:09:50 of my future was going to include speaking. And
00:09:50 --> 00:09:53 so I can still remember that first talk that
00:09:53 --> 00:10:00 I gave after. It was about 2017, the first talk
00:10:00 --> 00:10:04 I gave after all of this happened. And I started
00:10:04 --> 00:10:06 doing a variety of things to support my brain
00:10:06 --> 00:10:15 health. But I realized that I was by, I don't
00:10:15 --> 00:10:17 know if the word succumbing is the right word,
00:10:17 --> 00:10:19 but I'm going to use it. By succumbing to the
00:10:19 --> 00:10:23 belief that I was no longer going to speak, I
00:10:23 --> 00:10:28 was participating in. ruining my dream and so
00:10:28 --> 00:10:30 I shifted my thinking I reframed my thinking
00:10:30 --> 00:10:33 to how can I still figure out a way to get up
00:10:33 --> 00:10:37 on stage so I can deliver a message even though
00:10:37 --> 00:10:40 I don't have the confidence I once did I couldn't
00:10:40 --> 00:10:42 remember anything I was going to say and so I
00:10:42 --> 00:10:45 still remember that very first time walking up
00:10:45 --> 00:10:49 it was for a women's group and I don't know,
00:10:49 --> 00:10:51 there was something like 60 women in the room,
00:10:51 --> 00:10:54 maybe 80. It was quite a large group of women.
00:10:54 --> 00:10:56 And I brought my notes up to the room. I had
00:10:56 --> 00:10:59 every single line that I had planned to say written
00:10:59 --> 00:11:02 out, typed out in front of me because I knew
00:11:02 --> 00:11:10 that I could find within myself the energy and
00:11:10 --> 00:11:14 the enthusiasm and the pizzazz and the joy that
00:11:14 --> 00:11:17 I experience when I'm speaking, which then brings
00:11:17 --> 00:11:21 that. through to the audience, as long as I had
00:11:21 --> 00:11:25 the notes in front of me to refer to in case,
00:11:25 --> 00:11:27 just in case I were to forget a line. So I wouldn't
00:11:27 --> 00:11:31 be, you know, sabotaged or overtaken by the confidence
00:11:31 --> 00:11:34 monster, right? Because I could easily have turned
00:11:34 --> 00:11:38 around and made it a drastic change in career
00:11:38 --> 00:11:44 to not ever speak again. But I believe that I
00:11:44 --> 00:11:50 am meant to share the messages from that. And
00:11:50 --> 00:11:54 I'm so glad that in the face of the fear, in
00:11:54 --> 00:11:57 the face of no confidence, I took that first
00:11:57 --> 00:12:00 step. And yes, it was uncomfortable. It was uncomfortable
00:12:00 --> 00:12:02 to read parts of it. It was uncomfortable to
00:12:02 --> 00:12:05 be stopped mid -sentence, like all my thoughts
00:12:05 --> 00:12:09 completely gone from my mind. It was very uncomfortable,
00:12:10 --> 00:12:13 especially for someone who had done a lot of
00:12:13 --> 00:12:15 public speaking leading up to that, to just have
00:12:15 --> 00:12:18 blank space all of a sudden. But what I tell
00:12:18 --> 00:12:21 people now is it's far better to bring your notes
00:12:21 --> 00:12:24 up and to then be able to speak from your heart,
00:12:24 --> 00:12:26 looking down at the notes, gathering what you
00:12:26 --> 00:12:28 want to say, then speaking from the heart and
00:12:28 --> 00:12:31 sharing what your ideas that, you know, maybe
00:12:31 --> 00:12:33 you need to look at your notes a few more times.
00:12:33 --> 00:12:38 It's OK. And. And now, because I took that action,
00:12:38 --> 00:12:41 I continue to take more and more steps to strengthen
00:12:41 --> 00:12:47 my focus and my memory. I do more work on that.
00:12:47 --> 00:12:50 It is a priority for me to keep my brain strong.
00:12:50 --> 00:12:55 And then, you know, there were some other steps
00:12:55 --> 00:12:57 that led to me getting on the TEDx stage, but
00:12:57 --> 00:13:00 I honestly don't think that I would have been.
00:13:01 --> 00:13:03 I would be able to say I'm a two times TEDx speaker
00:13:03 --> 00:13:08 had I not taken that stage after that, my TSN
00:13:08 --> 00:13:12 turning point moment. Wow, that's amazing. That's
00:13:12 --> 00:13:17 quite a, I'm quite impressed. And, you know,
00:13:17 --> 00:13:19 it's nice that you can share that to everyone,
00:13:19 --> 00:13:22 you know, because, you know, everyone has challenges
00:13:22 --> 00:13:25 and sometimes they give up, but you just used
00:13:25 --> 00:13:30 it as a reason to keep going, you know. What
00:13:30 --> 00:13:32 were some of the tools or inner shifts that helped
00:13:32 --> 00:13:40 you grow that confidence? So, as I said, I now
00:13:40 --> 00:13:44 have quite a routine when I'm preparing for a
00:13:44 --> 00:13:49 speech, especially one like TEDx where you have
00:13:49 --> 00:13:53 to... and share exactly what you're going to
00:13:53 --> 00:13:56 say and then present it the exact way you said
00:13:56 --> 00:13:59 you would say it, right? With following that
00:13:59 --> 00:14:01 script you sent in. Yeah, there's a lot of detail.
00:14:01 --> 00:14:06 So I can honestly say I put in easily 100 hours
00:14:06 --> 00:14:09 of practice to that first TEDx, saying it over
00:14:09 --> 00:14:12 and over and over. So I have a pretty specific
00:14:12 --> 00:14:14 routine. Now, is that required of everyone? Definitely
00:14:14 --> 00:14:17 not. Is it required for most business speaking
00:14:17 --> 00:14:21 and most... Typical speaking, no, because there's
00:14:21 --> 00:14:24 not the rigidity around making sure that the
00:14:24 --> 00:14:28 message is delivered as you promised. But I'm
00:14:28 --> 00:14:31 also, I think one of the tools that I would share
00:14:31 --> 00:14:37 is that I, because I am aiming to lead myself
00:14:37 --> 00:14:43 first, I focus on not beating myself up when
00:14:43 --> 00:14:47 i make a mistake with my wording i just keep
00:14:47 --> 00:14:50 on going i might say actually what i meant to
00:14:50 --> 00:14:53 say with this i i'm okay with reframing in the
00:14:53 --> 00:14:56 moment i am focused on not beating myself up
00:14:56 --> 00:14:59 for those mistakes. And I think that's one of
00:14:59 --> 00:15:02 the tools that I would highly recommend, especially
00:15:02 --> 00:15:06 for some of my friends and coaching clients who
00:15:06 --> 00:15:08 maybe English isn't their first language and
00:15:08 --> 00:15:14 they are quite nervous and have low confidence
00:15:14 --> 00:15:16 around speaking, even just one -on -one because
00:15:16 --> 00:15:20 of the language barrier. I would tell you, you
00:15:20 --> 00:15:23 likely are speaking better than you think. And
00:15:23 --> 00:15:26 for those people who might be listening, and
00:15:26 --> 00:15:33 we can also utilize, the audience can utilize
00:15:33 --> 00:15:37 your body language and your tone and your beautiful
00:15:37 --> 00:15:42 smile as you're sharing your message to feel
00:15:42 --> 00:15:46 what you are trying to get across. Helping people,
00:15:46 --> 00:15:50 the tool of staying present in your own body.
00:15:51 --> 00:15:55 What do I mean by that? I mean noticing the feelings
00:15:55 --> 00:15:59 that may be coming up around, feeling discomfort
00:15:59 --> 00:16:02 or lack of confidence, breathing through that,
00:16:02 --> 00:16:06 feeling your feet flat on the floor, feeling
00:16:06 --> 00:16:09 the groundedness, being connected in that space.
00:16:10 --> 00:16:14 And one of the other tools would be going slower.
00:16:15 --> 00:16:18 So taking the pause, the pause doesn't have to
00:16:18 --> 00:16:20 mean anything. The breath doesn't have to mean
00:16:20 --> 00:16:25 anything. It simply, oftentimes people are speaking
00:16:25 --> 00:16:29 so quickly. That's not helpful either, right?
00:16:29 --> 00:16:33 So for yourself, if you're working on your confidence,
00:16:34 --> 00:16:39 it would be practice. Write it down, breathe,
00:16:39 --> 00:16:41 feel that connection. Those are all very important
00:16:41 --> 00:16:46 tools. Oh, definitely. What inspired your interest
00:16:46 --> 00:16:49 in nutritional well -being? I love that question.
00:16:49 --> 00:16:54 So I've been passionate about wellness for my
00:16:54 --> 00:16:58 whole life, honestly. And I think I uncovered
00:16:58 --> 00:17:01 a number of years ago, I had this epiphany that
00:17:01 --> 00:17:05 I believe I'm meant to talk about wellness related
00:17:05 --> 00:17:10 things. Because I've cared about it for so long.
00:17:10 --> 00:17:13 So my mom actually had both of her parents pass
00:17:13 --> 00:17:15 away before she was 10. And as the firstborn
00:17:15 --> 00:17:20 child, my interaction with that experience looked
00:17:20 --> 00:17:25 like being a witness to her processing of this
00:17:25 --> 00:17:32 as a new mother. And listen, I was really young.
00:17:32 --> 00:17:38 I can remember thinking, I want to take care
00:17:38 --> 00:17:42 of myself so I could live long enough to be a
00:17:42 --> 00:17:44 grandparent, to know my grandchildren, because
00:17:44 --> 00:17:47 I was the one who didn't get to know those grandparents.
00:17:47 --> 00:17:50 Right. So I made this decision as a young person
00:17:50 --> 00:17:54 and I know I was really young because. The vision
00:17:54 --> 00:17:56 that I've carried throughout my life from this
00:17:56 --> 00:17:59 very young age was I want to take care of myself
00:17:59 --> 00:18:03 so I could be a grandma or great -grandma and
00:18:03 --> 00:18:07 go bowling with my grandchildren and great -grandchildren.
00:18:07 --> 00:18:09 I wanted to be a rockin' great -granny. This
00:18:09 --> 00:18:12 is what I have been saying for years. And I actually
00:18:12 --> 00:18:15 believe that I created this vision from when
00:18:15 --> 00:18:18 I was little because I only ever bowled. i was
00:18:18 --> 00:18:21 in a bowling league when i was really little
00:18:21 --> 00:18:25 like maybe four or five and so my my connection
00:18:25 --> 00:18:29 was i believe that i created that vision very
00:18:29 --> 00:18:34 early on in my life and so as like anyone who
00:18:34 --> 00:18:37 who uncovers these things i continue to reflect
00:18:37 --> 00:18:40 more and more on this it's interesting to me
00:18:40 --> 00:18:42 that the only textbook i read front to back was
00:18:42 --> 00:18:45 my nutrition course in university that should
00:18:45 --> 00:18:48 have been a window into you know next layer but
00:18:48 --> 00:18:53 i'm passionate about this idea that if we take
00:18:53 --> 00:18:56 care of ourselves now It impacts us into our
00:18:56 --> 00:18:58 later age. And now we know with the study of
00:18:58 --> 00:19:01 epigenetics that that, in fact, is the case.
00:19:02 --> 00:19:04 So the decisions we make, the choices we make,
00:19:04 --> 00:19:08 the food we eat, it's why I am so passionate
00:19:08 --> 00:19:11 about nutrition and talking about that component
00:19:11 --> 00:19:17 of wellness, because the cells in our body require
00:19:17 --> 00:19:21 really great nutrients in order for them to work
00:19:21 --> 00:19:25 properly. And quite honestly. I'm not sure if
00:19:25 --> 00:19:27 there's very many people thinking about the cells
00:19:27 --> 00:19:31 in their body very often, right? So I think about
00:19:31 --> 00:19:35 them a lot. My poor children hear about how they've
00:19:35 --> 00:19:37 got to take care of the cells and they've got
00:19:37 --> 00:19:40 to take their vitamins and their minerals. And,
00:19:40 --> 00:19:44 of course, we eat 80 -20. There is pizza in my
00:19:44 --> 00:19:46 fridge right now as well as a container of ice
00:19:46 --> 00:19:49 cream. Like, we are real humans. But for sure,
00:19:49 --> 00:19:52 it's 80 20. They also eat a ton of vegetables,
00:19:52 --> 00:19:55 and they eat a lot of fruit. So it's, it's this
00:19:55 --> 00:19:58 idea of recognizing that there's no such thing
00:19:58 --> 00:20:01 as perfect. But are we filling the gaps in our
00:20:01 --> 00:20:03 nutrition with high quality supplements? You
00:20:03 --> 00:20:07 better believe it. I am a big fan of talking
00:20:07 --> 00:20:09 about nutrition. And quite honestly, I don't
00:20:09 --> 00:20:11 think you have like three weeks to talk about
00:20:11 --> 00:20:14 this. No, no, no, we won't on that too much today.
00:20:14 --> 00:20:18 But No, I do. I do believe in that, too, because,
00:20:18 --> 00:20:20 you know, that's what I did. I did that before
00:20:20 --> 00:20:22 I became an esthetician. I actually analyzed
00:20:22 --> 00:20:27 blood. Amazing. So I actually saw. all the results,
00:20:27 --> 00:20:30 what happened when people weren't healthy. So,
00:20:30 --> 00:20:33 you know, that sort of affected me because I
00:20:33 --> 00:20:37 saw sugar levels just shoot up. I saw electrolytes
00:20:37 --> 00:20:40 go out of whack, you know, and I know that they
00:20:40 --> 00:20:43 can go up and down with what you take in, right?
00:20:43 --> 00:20:45 Yes. Or with what's happening with your health.
00:20:45 --> 00:20:49 So definitely, I hear you there for sure. Your
00:20:49 --> 00:20:52 book, Celebrate Yourself, is such an empowering
00:20:52 --> 00:20:56 call to action. What led you to write it? Oh,
00:20:56 --> 00:21:03 celebrate yourself. I have, I've written a few
00:21:03 --> 00:21:07 books, actually. This is my first book related
00:21:07 --> 00:21:12 to the work that I'm doing now. And I have had
00:21:12 --> 00:21:15 this feeling on my heart for some time. And like
00:21:15 --> 00:21:18 all humans, I also had some negative limiting
00:21:18 --> 00:21:24 beliefs about it, right? That for whatever reason,
00:21:24 --> 00:21:28 I finally moved past, moved through, moved beyond
00:21:28 --> 00:21:34 earlier this year. And the mission, as I've shared
00:21:34 --> 00:21:38 a little bit, is number one, to help people connect
00:21:38 --> 00:21:41 to their worthiness, to recognize that they are
00:21:41 --> 00:21:50 enough. And as part of that, I believe that all
00:21:50 --> 00:21:54 of the moments, there are billions of moments
00:21:54 --> 00:21:59 in our day that if we chose to see them as valuable
00:21:59 --> 00:22:03 if we chose to see them as positive would be
00:22:03 --> 00:22:08 like stepping stones leading to that positive
00:22:08 --> 00:22:12 feeling that we want to have the the idea of
00:22:12 --> 00:22:16 balance the idea of contentment the idea of calm
00:22:16 --> 00:22:20 and ease if we simply notice start noticing the
00:22:20 --> 00:22:23 things that people, and quite honestly, when
00:22:23 --> 00:22:28 I start my coaching, every single time I ask,
00:22:28 --> 00:22:32 what are you celebrating? And frequently at the
00:22:32 --> 00:22:34 beginning of the coaching engagement, the people
00:22:34 --> 00:22:36 look at me like I've got three heads. They've
00:22:36 --> 00:22:39 never, ever considered the idea of celebrating
00:22:39 --> 00:22:42 anything. And they're like, oh, I have nothing.
00:22:43 --> 00:22:45 And then I say, jokingly a little bit, I say,
00:22:45 --> 00:22:47 well, did you brush your teeth this morning?
00:22:47 --> 00:22:50 And they go, well. Yeah, but what does that have
00:22:50 --> 00:22:53 to do with it? And I say, well, is that a positive
00:22:53 --> 00:22:56 behavior in your life? Okay, okay, I hear what
00:22:56 --> 00:22:59 you're saying. And then I say, okay, well, is
00:22:59 --> 00:23:00 there anything you might celebrate? Well, no,
00:23:00 --> 00:23:02 no, I don't have anything to celebrate. And so
00:23:02 --> 00:23:04 we work through this, but by call number two
00:23:04 --> 00:23:07 or call number three in the coaching engagement,
00:23:08 --> 00:23:11 Some of these people now start thinking about
00:23:11 --> 00:23:14 the positive things in their life before they
00:23:14 --> 00:23:17 get to the call. And they're so excited to tell
00:23:17 --> 00:23:21 me their celebrations that there's this interesting
00:23:21 --> 00:23:24 shift to not only are they becoming more aware
00:23:24 --> 00:23:27 of the positive things in their life, they're
00:23:27 --> 00:23:31 preparing to share the positive things. They're
00:23:31 --> 00:23:33 recognizing them already, right? Yes. And, and
00:23:33 --> 00:23:36 especially around wellness, this gets me so pumped.
00:23:36 --> 00:23:39 I mean, it helps in all areas, but in wellness,
00:23:39 --> 00:23:41 the people who are like sitting on the couch,
00:23:41 --> 00:23:43 beating themselves up, they want to lose all
00:23:43 --> 00:23:45 the weight or they want to feel awesome, but
00:23:45 --> 00:23:50 they're so down on themselves because they've
00:23:50 --> 00:23:52 tried all the things it's all or nothing, nothing
00:23:52 --> 00:23:55 ever works. They ate five donuts yesterday, whatever,
00:23:55 --> 00:23:59 whatever the things are. And I say, well, what
00:23:59 --> 00:24:03 are you celebrating about? How would you celebrate?
00:24:04 --> 00:24:05 What would you celebrate today if you decided
00:24:05 --> 00:24:09 to celebrate something? And we start with stepping
00:24:09 --> 00:24:13 stones of, okay, you had a shower. Great. You
00:24:13 --> 00:24:15 went for a walk. Well, I just went for half an
00:24:15 --> 00:24:20 hour. Well, instead of saying just, it's celebrating.
00:24:20 --> 00:24:22 You went for half an hour. There are a lot of
00:24:22 --> 00:24:24 people who didn't go for a half an hour walk
00:24:24 --> 00:24:27 yesterday. So let's not discount all these great
00:24:27 --> 00:24:30 things. You had salad yesterday. Great. You had...
00:24:31 --> 00:24:36 You had one pop instead of seven. Great. It's
00:24:36 --> 00:24:40 using this as momentum to taking the next positive
00:24:40 --> 00:24:45 action and to stop beating ourselves up so much.
00:24:45 --> 00:24:47 The negative inner critic, I go on into that
00:24:47 --> 00:24:50 a lot in the book as well. I think we have the
00:24:50 --> 00:24:52 opportunity to create the inner cheerleader on
00:24:52 --> 00:24:55 the other side, to strengthen that voice, to
00:24:55 --> 00:24:57 remind us of all the good things that we are
00:24:57 --> 00:25:01 and that we are doing. as momentum and positive
00:25:01 --> 00:25:07 fuel for our day. You emphasize how powerful
00:25:07 --> 00:25:09 our internal language is. When did you realize
00:25:09 --> 00:25:14 just how much words can shape our lives? I have
00:25:14 --> 00:25:20 this story I've told many, many times, but in
00:25:20 --> 00:25:24 an earlier part of my business, I was creating
00:25:24 --> 00:25:28 these accountability sheets for a mentor. for
00:25:28 --> 00:25:31 tracking of the work that I was doing. And then
00:25:31 --> 00:25:35 we would have a meeting about how things were
00:25:35 --> 00:25:39 going each week. And I can still remember back
00:25:39 --> 00:25:42 as if it was yesterday, the moment when she said,
00:25:43 --> 00:25:46 Amy, do you realize that you've written the words
00:25:46 --> 00:25:51 need to 12 times in a page and a half? And then
00:25:51 --> 00:25:55 of course, because I was less uh evolved I was
00:25:55 --> 00:25:58 you know had less personal development at that
00:25:58 --> 00:26:04 point I got defensive and was like of course
00:26:04 --> 00:26:07 I need to I need my kids need this and I need
00:26:07 --> 00:26:09 to go here and I need to do this and yeah yeah
00:26:09 --> 00:26:15 yeah yuck yuck pressure pressure like absolute
00:26:15 --> 00:26:18 pressure it was the moment I'm so grateful that
00:26:18 --> 00:26:21 she called me out on my baloney because it was
00:26:21 --> 00:26:24 the moment I realized that the words that I was
00:26:24 --> 00:26:26 choosing was creating the reality I was experiencing.
00:26:27 --> 00:26:30 The words I was choosing was creating the reality.
00:26:30 --> 00:26:32 So the words of stress. There's books written
00:26:32 --> 00:26:36 on words. Yes. Yeah. And the words that I was
00:26:36 --> 00:26:38 choosing was causing me to feel like I was in
00:26:38 --> 00:26:41 this pressure cooker in my own life. Instead
00:26:41 --> 00:26:47 of choosing a different word, like. I get to
00:26:47 --> 00:26:52 take my kids to the park and I get to be involved
00:26:52 --> 00:26:55 in their life instead of I need to take care
00:26:55 --> 00:26:57 of them. I need to do the dishes. Well, like,
00:26:57 --> 00:27:00 thank God we have dishes, right? So it's that
00:27:00 --> 00:27:06 constant reframe. And the first word for me was
00:27:06 --> 00:27:09 need. The second word was should. So I got really
00:27:09 --> 00:27:14 focused on my language in that time. And it was
00:27:14 --> 00:27:18 the beginning to, to why I do the work I do in
00:27:18 --> 00:27:20 executive and life coaching, especially around
00:27:20 --> 00:27:24 the, the power of our language, the words we
00:27:24 --> 00:27:28 are sharing, whether it's in our, out our mouth
00:27:28 --> 00:27:31 or in our head. And usually out our mouth is
00:27:31 --> 00:27:34 worse or no, sorry. Usually out of our mouth
00:27:34 --> 00:27:37 is an indicator of what's worse up in our head,
00:27:37 --> 00:27:42 but it's, it's a window into what's happening
00:27:42 --> 00:27:45 in our life. my belief is if you want to change
00:27:45 --> 00:27:48 your life, start by changing your language. Definitely.
00:27:48 --> 00:27:54 Yeah. You're also a Genos emotional intelligent
00:27:54 --> 00:27:57 practitioner. How does that tool help your clients
00:27:57 --> 00:28:01 grow, especially in leadership and team settings?
00:28:01 --> 00:28:05 Yeah. So the Genos emotional intelligence assessment,
00:28:05 --> 00:28:10 I decided a few years ago to become a part of
00:28:10 --> 00:28:14 this because Well, number one, people like to
00:28:14 --> 00:28:16 learn about themselves. That's part of developing
00:28:16 --> 00:28:19 self -awareness is uncovering new information
00:28:19 --> 00:28:23 about ourselves. And so I liked that component.
00:28:23 --> 00:28:28 But being someone who is highly intuitive, highly
00:28:28 --> 00:28:30 connected to my emotions, the idea of helping
00:28:30 --> 00:28:34 other people. work through their emotions and
00:28:34 --> 00:28:37 develop that side of the intelligence spectrum
00:28:37 --> 00:28:40 was very intriguing to me. So I was excited to
00:28:40 --> 00:28:45 add this in. And where it helps truly is helping
00:28:45 --> 00:28:47 them have more self -awareness, helping them
00:28:47 --> 00:28:50 to have clearer understanding of awareness of
00:28:50 --> 00:28:55 others, helping them relate to how they're showing
00:28:55 --> 00:28:58 up in the workplace. How are they delivering
00:28:58 --> 00:29:03 feedback? Are they... inspiring people to the
00:29:03 --> 00:29:08 level that they want to inspire people. So really
00:29:08 --> 00:29:10 distilling it down, it helps a lot with their
00:29:10 --> 00:29:12 communication. It helps a lot with their interpersonal
00:29:12 --> 00:29:23 relationships. And it's so valuable. And I'm
00:29:23 --> 00:29:26 so happy that more and more companies are recognizing
00:29:26 --> 00:29:31 the EQ, the emotional intelligence factor as
00:29:31 --> 00:29:33 something that really does make a difference
00:29:33 --> 00:29:37 in the workplace and sets people apart truly.
00:29:38 --> 00:29:40 And if we can nurture the development of some
00:29:40 --> 00:29:43 of these key areas, we see stronger workplaces,
00:29:43 --> 00:29:49 we see less burnout, we see less focus on perfectionism,
00:29:49 --> 00:29:54 those kinds of things. So with this, I didn't
00:29:54 --> 00:29:56 say it right. You said Genos or whatever. Yeah.
00:29:57 --> 00:30:00 Is that something you just talk to groups of
00:30:00 --> 00:30:04 people on or do you do one on one? Yeah. So there's
00:30:04 --> 00:30:09 both. I have gone into companies and I do some
00:30:09 --> 00:30:13 workshops around emotional intelligence. We use
00:30:13 --> 00:30:17 the assessment tool through Genos, which. honestly
00:30:17 --> 00:30:20 spits out this incredible report filled with
00:30:20 --> 00:30:22 so much data. There's so much data, we could
00:30:22 --> 00:30:26 peel back the onion on the people that do it
00:30:26 --> 00:30:29 in many ways. But I love it because there are
00:30:29 --> 00:30:32 a variety of different metrics. So if you're
00:30:32 --> 00:30:35 a person who really likes to see numerical data,
00:30:35 --> 00:30:37 there's numerical data. If you're someone who
00:30:37 --> 00:30:42 is highly visual and learns best through that
00:30:42 --> 00:30:45 they utilize color really well to help make sense
00:30:45 --> 00:30:50 of the data there's also qualitative data which
00:30:50 --> 00:30:53 in some assessments there's not a spot for people
00:30:53 --> 00:30:57 to actually type in qualitative like actual this
00:30:57 --> 00:30:59 is where this person is doing well this is where
00:30:59 --> 00:31:02 this person is could improve like there is a
00:31:02 --> 00:31:05 spot for qualitative data so it I find it to
00:31:05 --> 00:31:12 be a really encompassing assessment compared
00:31:12 --> 00:31:17 to just where it's only the numerical data. So
00:31:17 --> 00:31:23 it's very helpful. Well, that's good. As a coach
00:31:23 --> 00:31:27 practitioner of imposter syndrome, what are some
00:31:27 --> 00:31:29 common stories you help your clients rewrite?
00:31:29 --> 00:31:34 Yeah, so there's a few common stories. Denial.
00:31:35 --> 00:31:39 that they have had any success at all. It's always
00:31:39 --> 00:31:43 about luck or it's a mistake or it's a result
00:31:43 --> 00:31:47 of something else. People completely discounting
00:31:47 --> 00:31:51 praise and they feel guilt about having success
00:31:51 --> 00:31:54 or fear about it. Fear of failure, of course,
00:31:54 --> 00:31:58 not feeling smart enough. Anytime the word enough
00:31:58 --> 00:32:01 shows up. That's typically an imposter. Smart
00:32:01 --> 00:32:03 enough, good enough, thin enough, tall enough.
00:32:04 --> 00:32:10 Right. Those any of that perfectionism, overestimating
00:32:10 --> 00:32:13 others, but underestimating themselves. So everyone
00:32:13 --> 00:32:17 else is doing better than them. Difficulties,
00:32:17 --> 00:32:19 internalizing feelings of success. So that's
00:32:19 --> 00:32:22 where a lot of the celebrate yourself work comes
00:32:22 --> 00:32:30 in. And the idea of. overworking, so really burning
00:32:30 --> 00:32:35 themselves out to cover up for the feelings of
00:32:35 --> 00:32:40 imposter syndrome or feeling inadequate, like
00:32:40 --> 00:32:43 that they're not enough. So that overwork is
00:32:43 --> 00:32:47 often linked to imposter syndrome as well. Okay.
00:32:48 --> 00:32:51 You've collected so many powerful tools, NLP,
00:32:51 --> 00:32:54 timeline therapy, hypnosis. What was your very
00:32:54 --> 00:32:57 first training and how did it open this path?
00:32:59 --> 00:33:02 Yeah, that was an interesting, that's an interesting
00:33:02 --> 00:33:06 question. I have been doing personal development
00:33:06 --> 00:33:10 work since, I feel like grade seven or grade
00:33:10 --> 00:33:13 eight, that sounds nuts, like a very, very long
00:33:13 --> 00:33:17 time. But a course, I think my very first course
00:33:17 --> 00:33:20 was in high school and it was with John Maxwell.
00:33:20 --> 00:33:25 He's one of my favorites. Back many, many moons
00:33:25 --> 00:33:32 ago, John originally got started by delivering
00:33:32 --> 00:33:37 trainings through the church. And so somehow
00:33:37 --> 00:33:41 I ended up I grew up Catholic. It wasn't through
00:33:41 --> 00:33:44 the Catholic Church. It was some other church.
00:33:44 --> 00:33:47 I was at some other church. I could see it. I
00:33:47 --> 00:33:51 was sitting in there and up on the screen was
00:33:51 --> 00:33:54 maybe they had a project. I don't know how they
00:33:54 --> 00:33:59 did it at the time, but John was on the screen
00:33:59 --> 00:34:01 and we had workbooks in front of us and he would
00:34:01 --> 00:34:03 talk and then we would do our workbook. And then
00:34:03 --> 00:34:06 he so it was being shared through a variety of
00:34:06 --> 00:34:09 churches. My guess is through the U .S. and Canada
00:34:09 --> 00:34:13 because I was in Canada. So that was my introduction.
00:34:13 --> 00:34:18 And then I started getting John's CDs in the
00:34:18 --> 00:34:22 mail that you could listen to. And these were
00:34:22 --> 00:34:26 training CDs. And then I've done, I mean, so
00:34:26 --> 00:34:29 many courses since then. And then, as you can
00:34:29 --> 00:34:31 see behind me, I've got shelves and shelves and
00:34:31 --> 00:34:35 shelves of personal development self -help books.
00:34:35 --> 00:34:39 You got hooked, right? Oh, I looked. When you're
00:34:39 --> 00:34:41 really interested in something, you just keep
00:34:41 --> 00:34:46 wanting to learn more, right? Yes. Tell us about
00:34:46 --> 00:34:49 your upcoming trainings, Modern Hypnosis, which
00:34:49 --> 00:34:53 is October 24th to 26th, and Breakthrough Boot
00:34:53 --> 00:34:58 Camp, which is November 21st to 22nd. Where are
00:34:58 --> 00:35:03 they located and who are they for? Yeah, so both
00:35:03 --> 00:35:09 are in Kitchener, Ontario. And the modern hypnosis,
00:35:10 --> 00:35:12 I'm really excited with both of these courses.
00:35:12 --> 00:35:15 I got introduced to this work a couple of years
00:35:15 --> 00:35:18 ago, and I'm a big believer that the universe
00:35:18 --> 00:35:20 sends you the things that you need when you need
00:35:20 --> 00:35:24 them. And in this instance, my teacher and mentor
00:35:24 --> 00:35:28 in this work has literally been offering me to
00:35:28 --> 00:35:32 learn this information for not quite 20 years,
00:35:32 --> 00:35:36 but just about until finally. I opened the door
00:35:36 --> 00:35:43 and became ready. Why I'm so excited to share
00:35:43 --> 00:35:46 this three -day hypnosis with individuals who
00:35:46 --> 00:35:50 are curious about hypnosis, who are, whether
00:35:50 --> 00:35:52 they're people who already work in a helping
00:35:52 --> 00:35:55 professional profession, I mean, sorry, they're
00:35:55 --> 00:35:58 coaches, they're speakers, they're therapists,
00:35:58 --> 00:36:00 they're trainers, they're counselors, they're
00:36:00 --> 00:36:04 people working with people and they understand
00:36:04 --> 00:36:10 that if we can utilize this tool, it can make
00:36:10 --> 00:36:15 a difference to help individuals move through
00:36:17 --> 00:36:21 It can help people specifically with creation
00:36:21 --> 00:36:24 of habits. So whether they want hypnosis for
00:36:24 --> 00:36:26 support with weight loss, or they want hypnosis
00:36:26 --> 00:36:29 for support with quitting smoking, or they want
00:36:29 --> 00:36:33 hypnosis for goal attainment. So it's for the
00:36:33 --> 00:36:36 person, it's for individuals, or it's for people
00:36:36 --> 00:36:38 who work with individuals that might benefit
00:36:38 --> 00:36:43 from this. But I can honestly tell you this concept
00:36:43 --> 00:36:49 is around us. all the time it's and all hypnosis
00:36:49 --> 00:36:52 is self -hypnosis so it's understanding that
00:36:52 --> 00:36:56 and understanding how others in the world around
00:36:56 --> 00:37:00 us are utilizing it and how we can use it for
00:37:00 --> 00:37:03 ourselves to make positive change in our life
00:37:03 --> 00:37:06 that's what gets me the most excited about teaching
00:37:06 --> 00:37:09 the three -day is it's a it's an introductory
00:37:09 --> 00:37:14 um it is a certification if people take the the
00:37:14 --> 00:37:19 steps And it opens the door to a new awareness
00:37:19 --> 00:37:22 to help people unlock even more for themselves.
00:37:23 --> 00:37:27 And I know the first time that I got introduced
00:37:27 --> 00:37:31 to hypnosis, now it was many years ago, where
00:37:31 --> 00:37:35 I went and saw a hypnotherapist. It was game
00:37:35 --> 00:37:40 -changing for me. I'm excited for people who
00:37:40 --> 00:37:43 resonate with this idea to come check it out,
00:37:43 --> 00:37:47 to learn this tool that can make a big difference
00:37:47 --> 00:37:51 for them. Now, the Breakthrough Boot Camp. This
00:37:51 --> 00:37:57 is a two -day workshop, so it's slightly shorter.
00:37:58 --> 00:38:02 And this is for individuals who have businesses,
00:38:02 --> 00:38:05 they're entrepreneurs, they're leaders, or they're
00:38:05 --> 00:38:08 people who want to make change in their life.
00:38:08 --> 00:38:11 So whether it's change for themselves or change
00:38:11 --> 00:38:19 for within their work life. Really what we're
00:38:19 --> 00:38:22 doing is we are taking some specific strategies
00:38:22 --> 00:38:25 using neurolinguistic programming, otherwise
00:38:25 --> 00:38:28 known as NLP, timeline therapy, hypnosis. We're
00:38:28 --> 00:38:31 using some of these strategies to clear out some
00:38:31 --> 00:38:34 of the garbage that's keeping us stuck, looking
00:38:34 --> 00:38:38 at some of the mindset patterns to clear out
00:38:38 --> 00:38:41 these things and then to rewire using things
00:38:41 --> 00:38:44 like hypnosis and to set ourselves up with really
00:38:44 --> 00:38:49 great goal setting. for future to attain those
00:38:49 --> 00:38:53 future goals so it is you know some people might
00:38:53 --> 00:38:54 think well wouldn't that be a great thing to
00:38:54 --> 00:38:58 do in January I actually think why why wait why
00:38:58 --> 00:39:01 not do it before we get to the new year so the
00:39:01 --> 00:39:03 moment you hit the new year because everyone
00:39:03 --> 00:39:05 seems to think that's the only time that you
00:39:05 --> 00:39:07 could possibly set new goals I'm being silly
00:39:07 --> 00:39:12 here but why not why not get going on this so
00:39:12 --> 00:39:16 that the moment January 1 comes, we're not trying
00:39:16 --> 00:39:19 to sift through and deal with past garbage. We
00:39:19 --> 00:39:21 have already done that and we're ready to rock
00:39:21 --> 00:39:26 and roll. So this is my intention with this workshop
00:39:26 --> 00:39:29 is it's helping people to create the future they
00:39:29 --> 00:39:31 want, looking at the language they're using,
00:39:31 --> 00:39:33 looking at the patterns that they've been running
00:39:33 --> 00:39:35 for some time that are no longer serving them,
00:39:36 --> 00:39:42 moving through that. It is... a hands -on all
00:39:42 --> 00:39:47 -in peel back the onion kind of weekend but it's
00:39:47 --> 00:39:49 going to be awesome and people are going to have
00:39:49 --> 00:39:53 the breakthrough do you have like a certain limit
00:39:53 --> 00:39:57 how many people can attend or I like to keep
00:39:57 --> 00:40:01 things somewhat intimate the three -day hypnosis
00:40:01 --> 00:40:05 will be a smaller group but the breakthrough
00:40:05 --> 00:40:09 process I don't have a limit at this point. OK.
00:40:10 --> 00:40:15 Have you ever seen a doctor? Have you ever seen
00:40:15 --> 00:40:18 a client with their doctor's support reduce their
00:40:18 --> 00:40:20 need for medication after working with you on
00:40:20 --> 00:40:24 stress, mindset or limiting beliefs? Absolutely.
00:40:24 --> 00:40:28 The key to that question is the person has doctor's
00:40:28 --> 00:40:33 permission to be working with additional practitioners
00:40:33 --> 00:40:37 and they are. constantly in touch with their
00:40:37 --> 00:40:40 doctor but certainly there are lots of strategies
00:40:40 --> 00:40:44 that can help individuals reduce stress achieve
00:40:44 --> 00:40:49 weight loss and reduce their medication with
00:40:49 --> 00:40:51 the guidance of their medical practitioner. I
00:40:51 --> 00:40:53 don't have, I don't pretend to have permission
00:40:53 --> 00:40:58 to make any of those claims. But I'm always saying,
00:40:58 --> 00:41:00 you know, this is something that you want to
00:41:00 --> 00:41:02 check with your doctor on, check before we start
00:41:02 --> 00:41:05 this. Now, as people are uncovering, oh, I'm
00:41:05 --> 00:41:08 feeling a lot better. I wonder if I can. I'm
00:41:08 --> 00:41:11 always stopping them saying, before you do anything,
00:41:11 --> 00:41:16 please go talk with your doctor. Because in some
00:41:16 --> 00:41:17 cases with certain medications, there could be
00:41:17 --> 00:41:20 contraindications or there could be a process
00:41:20 --> 00:41:24 to wean off certain medications as well. So it's
00:41:24 --> 00:41:25 very, very important that if people are taking
00:41:25 --> 00:41:27 medication that they are talking with their doctor.
00:41:28 --> 00:41:29 But certainly I've seen a number of my clients
00:41:29 --> 00:41:34 have success. Great. You do quite a few of your
00:41:34 --> 00:41:37 sessions online these days, which is so convenient.
00:41:38 --> 00:41:41 I imagine it also means you might miss some of
00:41:41 --> 00:41:44 the subtle body language cues. How do you navigate
00:41:44 --> 00:41:49 that? I appreciate that question. And there's
00:41:49 --> 00:41:52 a couple of things. One, because I've been trained
00:41:52 --> 00:41:56 in NLP, which there's a pretty significant portion
00:41:56 --> 00:42:03 related to sensory acuity and picking up on cues
00:42:03 --> 00:42:09 of voice as well. and tone and volume and subtle
00:42:09 --> 00:42:16 facial shifts, I actually feel like, and because
00:42:16 --> 00:42:19 I've been someone who's been working online since
00:42:19 --> 00:42:26 2007, so I've had many, many years with this
00:42:26 --> 00:42:31 type of interaction and practicing. Of course,
00:42:31 --> 00:42:33 at the beginning, I probably did miss a few.
00:42:34 --> 00:42:39 cues, to be honest with you. But now I lean into
00:42:39 --> 00:42:44 also being a very intuitive person when I hear
00:42:44 --> 00:42:48 a shift in, even a minor shift in language, in
00:42:48 --> 00:42:51 how they're saying it, the tone they're using.
00:42:52 --> 00:42:55 Sometimes it's as small as how one part of their
00:42:55 --> 00:42:59 lip moves. And I will ask another question to
00:42:59 --> 00:43:02 uncover if if there was something that hit home
00:43:02 --> 00:43:04 for them or something that came to mind in that
00:43:04 --> 00:43:07 moment because their face is showing me that.
00:43:07 --> 00:43:10 So I actually believe that it's very possible
00:43:10 --> 00:43:13 to learn how to read the subtle cues that are
00:43:13 --> 00:43:16 happening, whether you're online or in person.
00:43:16 --> 00:43:20 And certainly I can't see your feet, right? Like
00:43:20 --> 00:43:23 we're on the screen here, upper body only. But
00:43:23 --> 00:43:28 I've been able to pick up on cues and then ask
00:43:28 --> 00:43:31 questions of clients. when we're on the phone
00:43:31 --> 00:43:33 even. So I know that I've been able to hone that
00:43:33 --> 00:43:38 skill. That's good. That's good to know. Let's
00:43:38 --> 00:43:41 talk about your podcast, Power to the People
00:43:41 --> 00:43:44 Pleasers. What inspired it and what kind of transformation
00:43:44 --> 00:43:48 do you want listeners to walk away with? Yeah,
00:43:48 --> 00:43:53 so I, a number of years ago was saying to a coach,
00:43:54 --> 00:43:56 I wanted to create a podcast, but I wasn't sure,
00:43:57 --> 00:44:01 you know, which direction, right, which conversation
00:44:01 --> 00:44:06 to have. And after some research, she asked me,
00:44:06 --> 00:44:09 what was a commonality between all the clients
00:44:09 --> 00:44:12 that I was coaching at that moment? Now, I wouldn't
00:44:12 --> 00:44:14 necessarily say it's the same now as I look over
00:44:14 --> 00:44:19 at my board here, but But certainly then the
00:44:19 --> 00:44:21 commonality, one of the commonalities between
00:44:21 --> 00:44:24 them all, male and female, was that they were
00:44:24 --> 00:44:27 people pleasers. And that was pretty interesting
00:44:27 --> 00:44:30 to me. And being a person who for the majority
00:44:30 --> 00:44:33 of my life have. been a people pleaser but I'm
00:44:33 --> 00:44:37 on the recovery journey I call myself a recovering
00:44:37 --> 00:44:39 people pleaser in that I've learned how to say
00:44:39 --> 00:44:44 no I'm being very intentional with what I'm saying
00:44:44 --> 00:44:48 yes to and is it aligned now to where I want
00:44:48 --> 00:44:52 to go and what I'm doing I am taking more time
00:44:52 --> 00:44:55 for me like I've made big strides in the people
00:44:55 --> 00:44:57 pleasing side of things but I knew that I'd be
00:44:57 --> 00:45:00 able to carry on a conversation with individuals
00:45:00 --> 00:45:04 who either support individuals who are people
00:45:04 --> 00:45:07 pleasers or who are themselves people pleasers
00:45:07 --> 00:45:09 and are working on it. And so it's been really
00:45:09 --> 00:45:12 fun actually to have these different conversations
00:45:12 --> 00:45:14 and to see the different angles and perspectives
00:45:14 --> 00:45:17 that each individual who I've interviewed has
00:45:17 --> 00:45:22 brought to the table. And really what I'm hoping
00:45:22 --> 00:45:24 for people to get out of this is they're not
00:45:24 --> 00:45:29 alone. Number one, with so many things in life,
00:45:30 --> 00:45:34 And I'm making the general we. I know I'm generalizing
00:45:34 --> 00:45:36 here. We seem to think we're alone and we're
00:45:36 --> 00:45:39 the only one going through whatever the thing
00:45:39 --> 00:45:43 is. And number one is helping people to realize
00:45:43 --> 00:45:46 that they're not alone. They're not the only
00:45:46 --> 00:45:49 people pleaser out there. And there are individuals
00:45:49 --> 00:45:53 who have figured out ways that can help feel
00:45:53 --> 00:45:58 better. And I also love when I have people come
00:45:58 --> 00:46:00 on the show who think I'm promoting being a people
00:46:00 --> 00:46:02 pleaser, which always makes me giggle because
00:46:02 --> 00:46:05 I'm definitely not promoting being a people pleaser.
00:46:06 --> 00:46:09 But the title does suggest there is a possibility
00:46:09 --> 00:46:12 of that. So it's about empowering. those people
00:46:12 --> 00:46:15 who are people pleasers to step up for themselves,
00:46:15 --> 00:46:18 to see themselves as valuable, to take care of
00:46:18 --> 00:46:20 themselves, to say no more often, to say yes
00:46:20 --> 00:46:24 to what matters to them, not because of guilt,
00:46:24 --> 00:46:26 because they quote unquote should, but because
00:46:26 --> 00:46:30 it feels aligned to them. So I'm excited for
00:46:30 --> 00:46:35 the impact that the show is making. Good. You've
00:46:35 --> 00:46:39 said your mission is to inspire 100 people
00:46:39 --> 00:46:42 to embrace their worth. What does success look
00:46:42 --> 00:46:45 like to you on the other side of that vision?
00:46:46 --> 00:46:53 It looks like more and more people feeling happier
00:46:53 --> 00:47:01 each day. It looks like individuals reaching
00:47:01 --> 00:47:06 out and saying, I know that I'm enough and this
00:47:06 --> 00:47:10 is what I did because I now know that. I realize
00:47:10 --> 00:47:14 that I'm worthy of what I want and this is the
00:47:14 --> 00:47:17 action I'm now taking or I'm not beating myself
00:47:17 --> 00:47:20 up. to the same level I was. Maybe it's not completely
00:47:20 --> 00:47:24 gone, but they're happier because they're not
00:47:24 --> 00:47:27 living in that negative state to that same level
00:47:27 --> 00:47:30 anymore. They're using the word should less.
00:47:30 --> 00:47:32 They're using the words need to less. They're
00:47:32 --> 00:47:37 using the words get to more and celebrating themselves.
00:47:38 --> 00:47:42 I know that there will be success in this when
00:47:42 --> 00:47:49 there's even more people Feeling that joy around
00:47:49 --> 00:47:53 me. Lastly, if you could leave listeners with
00:47:53 --> 00:47:57 one powerful mindset shift mantra or affirmation
00:47:57 --> 00:48:05 for today, what would it be? Celebrate yourself.
00:48:06 --> 00:48:09 Well, you know what I want? I didn't want to
00:48:09 --> 00:48:10 prepare for this. I wanted to feel what felt
00:48:10 --> 00:48:16 right to deliver to your audience today. But
00:48:16 --> 00:48:19 I think that what's coming up for me certainly
00:48:19 --> 00:48:22 is celebrate yourself. But what's coming up for
00:48:22 --> 00:48:30 me is. You matter. And taking care of yourself.
00:48:31 --> 00:48:36 Taking care of your your the cells of your body
00:48:36 --> 00:48:42 and the your precious, precious mind, recognizing
00:48:42 --> 00:48:47 that you are you are. in charge of your thoughts
00:48:47 --> 00:48:53 and can choose to think something totally different.
00:48:53 --> 00:48:56 Yes, it will take work. Yes, it will take focus.
00:48:57 --> 00:48:59 But shifting the language that you're using with
00:48:59 --> 00:49:02 yourself to celebrate yourself or to see that
00:49:02 --> 00:49:05 you are absolutely wonderful and worthy and enough
00:49:05 --> 00:49:08 in every single moment. That's what I would leave
00:49:08 --> 00:49:13 them with. That's great. Amy, thank you for sharing
00:49:13 --> 00:49:15 your journey, your brilliance, and your grounded
00:49:15 --> 00:49:19 presence. Your insights on mindset, worthiness,
00:49:19 --> 00:49:22 and emotional well -being are a gift. For those
00:49:22 --> 00:49:25 listening, be sure to check out Celebrate Yourself,
00:49:25 --> 00:49:30 explore Amy's free book, Tame Your Inner Critic,
00:49:30 --> 00:49:33 and tune into her podcast, Power to the People
00:49:33 --> 00:49:37 Pleaser. I'll place her contact info in the description
00:49:37 --> 00:49:40 section. Thank you for joining me on... Here's
00:49:40 --> 00:49:45 Amy's... book celebrate yourself she also has
00:49:45 --> 00:49:48 a podcast called power to the people pleasers
00:49:48 --> 00:49:51 and she offers a free book on her website tame
00:49:51 --> 00:49:57 the inner critic her website is amyballantine
00:49:57 --> 00:50:02 .com she also has another website valentinecoaching
00:50:02 --> 00:50:11 .com and she's also on instagram at Amy Ballantyne
00:50:11 --> 00:50:16 and Facebook Amy E. Ballantyne and on Twitter
00:50:16 --> 00:50:21 at Amy Ballantyne. Her cell phone number is 519
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