Rediscover Your Dreams- Kimber D Gorton

[00:00:00] Hey guys, Corey Poirier here. Welcome to BluTalks and I hope you enjoy this video.

[00:00:29] Thank you. Today is National I Forgot Day. A lot of people forget a lot of things. They even forget what their dreams are. They forget the dream that they had last night. They forget the dream that they had when they were five to be a teacher or a doctor,

[00:00:50] a lawyer, an educator. They forgot how to dream forward in color because somebody along the way told them dreams weren't important. They were something you did while you slept. They were something somebody else did that you would benefit from later on.

[00:01:14] They didn't teach you that the cost of having a dream would come with a value that you may not be able to afford. When I decided to step forward into my life after the loss of my parents during the pandemic,

[00:01:35] I started writing. And with that dream of writing came a cost that I had no idea the price I would pay. Cost me my marriage. It cost me my children. It almost cost me my business. It cost me reputation.

[00:01:58] It cost me money for publishing, for editors, for speaking, and for moving forward. Those were costs that moved me from there to here and where I stand today. They were costs that I didn't know were going to come with tears and grief and fighting because my dream meant that I was going to have to push forward in a direction that they didn't understand at a price that they didn't value for a person that

[00:02:27] they had in a small box, on a small stage, in a small place. I did a test a few weeks ago to see if I would even qualify for a university like this and surprisingly enough I sit where Harvard students would be because my IQ is the exact same. And yet the people in my life didn't value me because I was

[00:02:50] outspoken, because I was different, because I said things I probably shouldn't have at my cost. My cost. And what is it to really have a dream to fulfill something that we want to do and have the guidance and the people in our life to support us to do that? I don't have the right way

[00:03:15] or the right path to do that. But what I have done is I've learned that it's okay to move forward and to fulfill that dream however much it was going to cost me. I spent a lot of time alone. And for a lot of people in my life they thought that it was a terrible thing. I learned to love myself. Because my value was slowly growing, I learned that I didn't need to be someone's option,

[00:03:42] that I should be their choice. Always. And I fought to be an option. I fought to be seen. And I fought to be on someone's pedestal. I didn't belong there. And why do we fight so hard for a dream that is ours to please somebody else? For a dream that they don't understand. You know, we see lots of

[00:04:08] people in our lives and in our daily lives, in our world, social media and etc. And what we see isn't exactly the story. You know, myself, I had to learn to do reels. One of the scariest things I've ever had to do in my life. I am not a techie person by any means. I'm okay to speak. I'd rather speak in front of people that I get to see your expression on your face and understand who you are. I understand now that what technology is, is how influencing is being done. I'd rather do it in

[00:04:38] person. And having to do a reel took me four weeks of, I got this and it's going to take me 10 seconds and 15 deletes and I'm not wearing this shirt. And I don't like this. And this is stupid. And this sucks. And people are standing there and they make it look easy. I've been in a couple of movies, yes, for fun. I've also been in commercials. And I've been in a couple of music videos. And those are entirely different things. They're standing there with a phone right in front of you on a rig,

[00:05:07] in a camera, with someone guiding you with lines. That's an entirely different game. I needed to see what was going on in the inside because the cost of what I was going to do meant I had to pave the way for my children, my grandchildren, and for everybody else that's wanting to go, how do we do this? I don't know how to do this. I'm learning how to do this. And it's coming at a price that I wasn't sure I wanted to pay. It came with sacrifice. How do you

[00:05:35] put a price on sacrifice? You can't until you go through it. You sacrificed a lot. And in doing that, I've gained myself. I love myself. I love hanging out with myself. I drove 12 hours by myself to come here. It was one of the most character building drives I've ever had. I slept in a sketchy parking lot. And I drove through Vermont in the dark that looked like the

[00:06:01] inside of Stephen King. And I had a can of Icy Hot in case somebody came at me because bear spray isn't good. But we've all got owie boo-boo. So my Icy Hot was going to save my life at three o'clock in the morning going down this sketchy road. Thank God I drive a Jeep. And this is a price that I paid to come here. And it's amazing. And you know, I've got to do a couple things in my bucket list while I came.

[00:06:26] And I get to stand in this amazing historical building, which my life two years ago never would have looked like this. I was told by my own family, you can't write a paragraph. You're dyslexic. Never mind write a book. Never mind publish a book. Never mind multiple books. The cost of writing those

[00:06:49] books cost me them because they didn't see the dream that I had. And I know one day they'll come back around and they'll want to understand my path. And I'll be here waiting. Different version. But I'll be waiting. I'll be a stronger version for them because they too are going to have a dream that they're going to want to fulfill that nobody is going to understand. And I will be here to guide them on

[00:07:11] that path. The same way I'm here to help impact and influence you on yours, however it may look. We all have something inside of us that we don't talk about in a weight that we carry both physically, mentally, spiritually. Two years ago I could hardly walk. I couldn't drum. I couldn't mountain bike. I couldn't roller blade because the things that were weighing me down in my life created an illness

[00:07:42] that people didn't understand that I was told was mental. A technical term for it was fibromyalgia. I'm a high-functioning fibromyalgia. I was on medication that cost me $500 a month just so I could go to work so that I could continue to serve the people that I love. I reversed that. All of it. It was a lot of work. I read a lot of books. I listened to a lot of podcasts. I woke up.

[00:08:09] I stepped into my path at a cost that was mine. I woke up and I said thank you every day. I'm a millionaire. I've got eyesight. I can stand. I can breathe fresh air. I can taste food. I can write. I can use my imagination. I can sing terribly by myself to Billy Joel,

[00:08:31] whom I love to my death. And there are things that we value that we take for granted until we don't have them. And it's something that I have learned to embrace on this path and found out that it doesn't matter really at the end of the day. What matters is who we are here and how do we put a price on us?

[00:09:01] If someone was to say to you today, I want you to come and stand on this stage. What's your fee? What's your fee? Is it your experience? Is it what you carry? Is it where you're going? Is it what your projections are? Is it how people see you? What do you do for a living is one

[00:09:26] of the questions I hate the most. I'm living every day. Every single day that I am here, I am living. Don't ask me what I do for a living. Ask me what I do outside of my day job. That's where you're going to find me because that's where a lot of my purpose resides. And we lose focus on what we do daily

[00:09:50] because society has said you are a 9 to 5 or a 10 to 6 or a 12 to 12 for this fee based on your skills. I want to break that. I'd like to break that. I don't know how and hopefully I don't go missing. It's not permission. Every time someone has an idea that sounds good, they like to take it. I'm a

[00:10:15] fiction author all day long. I live in fiction. I love it. And I've been writing since probably since I was younger than I was able to. And so now everything that I have gone through, I've researched myself for days before it makes it into a book, including the popcorn in my children's book series I researched for three days. I'm writing a thriller right now that has been the scariest thing in my life because my daughter loves them. I don't own a TV anymore. I don't listen to the radio anymore.

[00:10:45] And I don't watch the news, not out of ignorance, but because my body is my peace and my life is so important to me now. The world can't penetrate it. I won't let it. It doesn't deserve a position in my body to digest. And I don't need to digest the stuff that the world is giving me because that's a price that I'm paying and they're not. They only benefit if I'm sick or if I'm overweight

[00:11:15] or if I have mental illness or if I require an assistive device of some sort. That's where they benefit. They don't benefit if I'm healthy, if I'm educated, if I'm speaking my truth, if I'm living my daydream and my nightdream. Why is it that we're told no? We're told no for many reasons.

[00:11:39] Not the right ones. Some of them not good at all. But why not yes? Why not yes to your dream, no matter what it is? If it's building toothpick castles or aiming for toothbrush commercials or anything else that you've got going on, why aren't you saying yes? Why are you afraid to say yes because of someone else's no and misunderstanding of who you are as an individual? I challenge you all

[00:12:08] to live your daydream and to figure out what your daydream is worth to you personally, not your bottom line. But when you go to bed at night and you close your eyes and you think of the next thing you're going to do, there, there is where it rests. My daydreams are going into my books so that I can help everybody who has gone through anything tragic or anything scary or anything that needed to be a

[00:12:34] different, explained a little bit different because I'm very outside the box. And that's where it sits. And it's coming. And I will continue to write and continue to speak and educate through my journey and others who have impacted me for voices who can't be heard because there's a lot of them out there that are afraid to speak. And they'll come to me and say, can you talk about, can you advocate for?

[00:12:58] I'm sure. Everything from special needs to seniors, advocacy, make a wish. I'm a make-a-wish grantor. I get to do some amazing things in the mascots that I wear for multiple charities that I'm involved in. I sit on three boards and I'm advocating for change in our clothing industry because the very things that we are wearing are making us sick. In the 23 years that I've been wearing clothes and working with clothes, not okay. We are expanding and our vibration is high and the world is having a

[00:13:27] hard time adjusting. If you look outside, Mother Earth is going through menopause or Father Winter is having a midlife crisis. Something is going on. And the more that we wake up and we expand and we live our daydreams, the happier the world and the earth is going to be and it will spin on a better axis for everybody. So I challenge you to close your eyes and live your daydream. You're welcome.

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